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    VMConsulting becomes Centerline Consulting

    There is a time and place for everything and now it was the time for a proper rebranding! Same company and same owner - but with a fresher look. The graphic team has been playing with my background and passion from aviation and you will therefore find bits and peaces from the world of flying. I am also excited to soon present the different value-based professionals I am working with. Since I have got some english speaking clients - I want to stick to english as the basic language in the newsfeed so we can communicate the same message to all. We hope you like the new look :-)
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    C.S Lewis = the "BrenĂ© Brown" of the time đŸ« 

    " Vulnerability is a profound strenght that lies in our willingness to be seen, to be real and to face life with an open heart even when it hurts. It is not: exposing your wounds, admitting defeat or relenquising control, but about ... 👣S t e p p i n g f o r w a r d👣 even when there is no guaranties. It is the courage to say; - I don't have all the answers... - Being honest about you struggeling - The audacity to open your self up to connection, knowing that is comes with a risk of rejection, judgement or heartbreak. What makes vulnerability so đŸ’„powerfulđŸ’„ is that it requires us to confront fear head on. Fair of failure, fear of being seen as a failure, and fear of not being enough. ✚Vulnerability (showing up) is a testament of bravery and authencity. This door invites us to growth and transformation. The thought of you don't have it all creates rather a space for curiocity and exploration. Achknowledging our pain helps process rather than burying it. Vulnerability is not easy. It takes trust. Trust in your self. Trust in others. Trust in the process. It doesn't comes without risk. It is not about the response you will receive (at the arena) but it is about the â€ïžâ€đŸ”„C H O I C Eâ€ïžâ€đŸ”„ to show up regardless of the outcome. That choice is the đŸ’„powerđŸ’„ within you.
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    💭 You can do one thing that does not cost money to strenghten your relationships...

    Dr. John Gottman has researched and studied couples for several decades and identified some strikingly precise findings that distinguish dysfunctional relationships (“disasters”) from functional ones (“masters”). One key factor is the ability to never let curiosity and knowledge about the other person fade away.
    Gottman says:
    “We usually make statements and broadcast things rather than asking questions.”
    His recommendation is to replace 50% of what you say (or are about to say) in a conversation with open-ended questions (not yes/no questions), in order to explore and deepen the relationship.
    What do you think would happen to the content of your conversations if you asked questions such as:
    • What has been meaningful to you today?
    • What is it like to be a mother right now?
    • What are you learning at work these days?
    • What are you hoping will happen this week?
    Read more about their research here
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      Today we are coaching with the ocean as our view. What is coaching, really, and where does the term come from?
      The word “coach” (English) or “coache” (French) originates from the word for “carriage.” Coaching as a method is designed to help a person gain greater insight, awareness, and self-knowledge on the journey toward a desired destination. The client is meant to take the lead.
      The coach—the “driver” of the carriage—contributes through questions, clarification of goals, and direction.
      At Centerline, we see ourselves as guides in the client’s jungle of life. We set out on a journey of discovery in search of gold, encountering lion’s jaws, fire, and the monkeys of life along the way. Sometimes the journey lasts a couple of hours, while other journeys we are privileged to be part of over several years.
      Coaching can be applied in areas such as:
      • Personal development
      • Leadership
      • Relationships
      • Teamwork
      • Business development
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      I know now how to persevere

      Changing behavior and thought patterns is among the most difficult things we do in life. New habits take time and energy to establish. Kristian (32) wanted his life to be different and made a firm decision not to give up until the results were manifesting:
      “Having regular check-ins when a process doesn’t just take a month or three, but stretches over a longer period, has been incredibly important to me. Some processes simply take time. Some strongholds are just stubborn. Sometimes you have to go round after round after round. The value of being able to stand with someone in difficult things—things that don’t just disappear, where the battles are costly—can be measured in a life that changes one step at a time. Meeting to talk about it gives me a boost and motivation to keep going, and it lifts my perspective. It is demanding to be vulnerable with someone in difficult situations, but I would absolutely recommend Rebecca, even when it’s not just about a step or two, but a long journey!”
      Is there something you want to change that feels difficult to face on your own?
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        Living with purpose = a higher likelihood of living longer and better

        We human beings are meaning-seeking by nature, and it seems we are wired to live for something greater than ourselves. We go the extra mile, volunteer our time, work overtime, and engage in causes that matter to us throughout life. Not only is it good for us to be passionate about something and to belong, but researchers also suggest that you are more likely to live longer because you tend to make better choices (that benefit your health), buffer stress, and thereby reduce inflammation.
        Rebecca chair Mission Aviation Fellowship International in Norway, and out of curiosity she interviewed one of the pilots, Eivind. In his context, purpose can go as far as costing your life. Why are one willing to expose oneself to such risk—and for people he or she do not even know?
        Eivind explains:
        “We continuously assess risk, but we are willing to accept a certain level of it because the mission is so all-encompassing: it is about giving all people an eternal hope and a better life here on earth.”
        Not everyone has a job or calling like Eivind’s, but all of us carry some “combustible material” within us that can be ignited by a spark. When that spark catches and becomes a fire, it generates tremendous energy. This energy becomes a driving force that can give us both capacity and direction in life.
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        I am now a better version of myself

        Everyone has challenges and a past that can hold us back or influence the choices we make-- sometimes preventing us from moving forward. The challenge is often to identify what those barriers are—and not the least: to gain the tools needed to move ahead. Siri (29) knew that something had to change:
        “Previously, I have seen both a psychologist and received counseling to help me deal with personal difficulties and challenges, but I often left without a concrete plan. In my personal development sessions with Rebecca, I was met with recognition, care, and honesty. At the same time, she helped me put words to where I was and gave me tools to address my challenges. I experienced a sense of ownership over my situation right where I was and became more aware of what I can and cannot control. This has helped me become a better version of myself, both personally and professionally. I am now also able to help others in similar situations.”
        Do you feel that something is holding you back from becoming more of who you want to be?
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          Rebecca's morning routine

          I don’t know about you, but I find that if I don’t take charge of my day, the day quickly takes charge of me. Just think about the power our thoughts have over our health and how we feel. A proverb from the wise King Solomon says:
          “As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.”
          In many ways, we become what we think. That is why it is so important to take charge of our thoughts—and not least of what we fill ourselves with.
          What do I do? I have developed a small set of morning routines that provide a solid foundation for the day (though I don’t always manage to follow them perfectly). Some days it’s just 5–10 minutes because I’ve slept too little or lost track of time. Other days, I have the luxury of spending up to 60 minutes (when I’m on schedule).
          This is what I do:
          • Nourishment for the soul/spirit: I read or listen to something that builds me up and moves me in the direction I want to go.
          • Gratitude: I review my “meaning/joy list,” reflect on the good things I’ve experienced recently, and write down both small and big moments from the previous day.
          • Awareness: I acknowledge my current state and mood, and consciously choose my mindset for the day.
          What do you do to start your day well? What would give you a good start?
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          I'm glad I don't have to think about where I could have been

          Almost everyone goes through some difficult phases in life. Sometimes the social crisis feels like the utter darkness with no way out. At such times, it is crucial to invite another person in and get some tools to work with. It is human to feel stuck, but we donĂŠt want to stay in the "stuckness". Mirjam (28) is at her best place in life now because she decided to give "help" a chance:
          I was in an incredibly dark place and started having conversations with Rebecca in February, something I am eternally grateful for. It was easy to be myself. I was allowed to be angry, frustrated, to ask the big questions, and most of all, given space to be where I was. Rebecca is able to show love, safety, patience, and challenges just enough so that I can move forward without it becoming overwhelming. She has a lot of experience and her feet are firmly planted on the ground, but even more importantly, she can get you to lift your gaze "upward" even when there seems to be no hope. A change in life circumstances doesn't happen overnight, and the regular conversations have meant everything – to be allowed to try and fail on my own, while still having close follow-up and a safe harbor in Rebecca. I can say with my hand on my heart that the choice I made by starting to have conversations with Rebecca is one of the absolute most important and best choices I've ever made. I'm glad I don't have to think about where I would have been without it.
          Does life feel hopeless, or are you struggling to see where the path goes?
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          Are you taking on this weekend's challenge?

          In this week's blog post, Rebecca talks about the courage to enter the "black hole", to face what's there, and then take responsibility for your "monkey". "Monkey management" can be really scary! But truth sets you free, acknowledgment is taking personal responsibility, and vulnerability builds trust and respect among those around you.
          👉 When you're in a situation where you're tempted to take an easy route or sugar coat the truth, stop and ask yourself:
          "What am I afraid will happen if I just say it as it is?
          What do I believe I will loose?"
          If you're extra brave - challenge yourself by sharing the reality to someone you will take the risk and trust and take note on how they respond to your honesty and vulnerabilty.
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